The Basis for Marriage

Ephesians 5:15-21:

[15] Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, [16] making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. [17] Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. [18] And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, [19] addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, [20] giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, [21] submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. (ESV)

I’ve heard Christians who desired to twist what the Bible said in order to justify their own pursuit of happiness. Divorce, homosexuality and promiscuity are the big ones with regard to the subject of marriage. So I’ve heard the argument made that “God just wants me to be happy.”

The answer that I’ve conserved more often than not is, “God doesn’t want us to be happy. He wants us to be obedient.” The problem with this answer is that God does want us to be happy. The real issue I have come to understand concerns where we are placing the source of our happiness. In other words, if you are trying to find happiness in what someone else does for you, then you will be disappointed and go looking for happiness elsewhere.

Look at the Ephesians passage. This comes right before a primary source teaching on marriage from the Bible. This is its context. The reason we submit to each other is because our desire is for God. If we don’t submit to each other then our desire is not for God. Rather, our desire is to have our own needs satisfied. Remember what Jesus said: seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you. The first thing we should seek is the will of the one who provides us all things (v 17).

So we see how this works with marriage. If you want a happy marriage, seek God’s will. If you understand that God loves your spouse more than you do, you will seek to minister to the one that God loves according to their need. When both spouses do this, it’s pure bliss. When one spouse doesn’t, then the one who does will continue counting the suffering as joy. There is no seeking happiness elsewhere because you are aligned with Christ who died for us while we were still in sin.

Long gone are the self-serving warm fuzzies I once felt for my wife. Long now have I had an even greater passion for her as I follow Christ on her behalf.

So whether you are married, single, or have inappropriate feelings for another, whether the opposite or the same sex, seek God’s will first. All of us will suffer in one way or another for our earthly passions. Count it as all joy as we glorify God and submit to each other out of reverence for Him.

The Truth About the Same-Sex Marriage Agenda

Lest any think that the homosexual agenda is honorable and honest:

Russian-American journalist, Masha Ghessen, said the following last month at the Sydney Writers Festival:

"...fighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we are going to do with marriage when we get there—because we lie that the institution of marriage is not going to change, and that is a lie. The institution of marriage is going to change, and it should change. And again, I don’t think it should exist."

At least she's being honest in this case about the Same-Sex Marriage Agenda. She says in this same speech that she is uncomfortable with lying. Why? If lying is wrong, then don't do it. But if it is wrong, then you have to understand that those against whom you fight have a moral foundation that for the same time holds both lying and homosexual activity to be sinful. And what moral foundation do they have?

HT: Stand to Reason